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No matter how good a toy is, it’s meaningless if it’s not suitable for the baby.
Take a look at your child’s room—there are already so many toys! At this point, figuring out how to handle your child’s requests—especially when they’re influenced by advertising and peer pressure—is quite tricky. But the prettiest toy isn’t necessarily the best—it’s often the one that sparks more imagination. So how do you choose good toys for your child? Let’s find out in the following section.
Toys and Play
Toys can help children start playing and support their development. However, your child may not need as many toys as you think. The best toys are “open-ended.” These kinds of toys encourage your child to use their imagination, creativity, and problem-solving skills.
Open-ended toys include:
1. Building blocks—One day your child might build a tower with them; the next day, they could hold a block up to their ear and pretend it’s a telephone.
2. Balls—they can bounce, roll, be tossed, caught, or used to knock things over.
3. Cardboard boxes—they can stand in for all sorts of things, from store counters and ovens to cars, boats, and dollhouses.
4. Doll clothes—With some old clothes and fabric scraps, your child can dress up as anyone or anything they like.
5. Drawing paper and craft supplies—Colored paper, stickers, crayons, and washable markers can inspire your child to create their own masterpiece.
Choosing Toys
Many toys come with age recommendations on the packaging. While these guidelines are helpful, they’re only a starting point when it comes to play. Your child’s interests and developmental stage are often more important in guiding your toy choices. Of course, age information is crucial for ensuring safe use—for example, if a toy has small parts that could be swallowed. In such cases, it’s wise to follow the safety age guidelines.
For your baby, the best “toy” and playmate is you, a caregiver, or another close family member. Your baby will love looking at your face, listening to your voice, and spending time with you. They’ll also enjoy a brightly colored phone, a wind-up musical toy, or learning to reach for a rattle. Once your child can sit up, they’ll love things they can bang on—like a wooden spoon hitting a pot—which feels just as fun as a specially made toy.
Children love playing with boxes and often find the wrapping more exciting than the gift inside. Other great options include construction toys and clothes for dress-up games. Older kids tend to enjoy solving problems and using their imagination. Puzzles or games that involve teamwork are also excellent choices.
Toys That Make You Uncomfortable
Some toys may not align with your family’s values. For example, some parents feel uneasy about toys that resemble guns, while others may dislike dolls that look very much like real people or the outfits they wear.
Toy Weapons
Toy weapons often evoke themes of aggression and violence. When children play in an aggressive way, it can negatively affect their self-confidence and overall well-being. However, toy weapons can also be used in positive ways—depending largely on how your child plays and whether they understand what they’re doing. For instance, your child might use a toy gun as part of a pretend police-and-bandit game, which could be perfectly fine. But if your child uses a toy gun in a threatening or intimidating manner toward other children, they may need your guidance. In this case, the presence of the toy itself isn’t the main issue.
Kids often treat toy guns as everyday objects—like sticks, celery, slices of toast, or LEGO bricks. This may not be what you’d expect, but the symbolic power of a “grilled” toy gun is different from that of a traditional toy gun. A grilled toy gun is more of a metaphorical symbol and less likely to scare others.
Sensual Dolls
Playing with dolls is fun, but some dolls have adult-like, sensual appearances—for example, certain girls’ dolls may wear miniskirts, fishnet stockings, and high heels. While this may seem playful and innocent, it can reinforce a female image that you don’t want your child to internalize—or even imitate. In fact, a 2009 study by a UK human rights organization found that the sexualized portrayal of toys can directly influence children’s perceptions, attitudes, and behaviors around sexuality. Again, it’s important to pay attention to how your child plays with dolls. If you’re concerned, you can provide more dolls that reflect a wider range of body types and styles, so your child can explore diverse representations.
Talking About Toys
You’re the one who decides what kinds of toys your child gets to play with. If you have strong feelings about certain toys, talk it over with your child—especially as they get older. You can discuss your family’s values, for example: “Guns can scare and hurt a lot of people, and we don’t have any guns in our house.”
Scolding your child or outright banning certain toys isn’t an effective approach. It may only make them want to play with the toys you don’t like even more. Instead, use this opportunity to teach your child about your own values regarding weapons, war, and violence.
Kids sometimes get confused about toy messages. For example, if they’re allowed to watch violent TV shows or play violent video games, they may wonder why their parents forbid them from playing violent games. If you don’t want other adults to give your child a particular toy as a gift, offer a brief, calm explanation. Remember, ultimately, it’s your decision.
The Power of Advertising
Many toys are heavily advertised—and the target audience is often your child. When “everyone else has it,” it can be hard to convince your child to resist a toy. You may prefer to learn how to help your child avoid being easily swayed by marketing. Advertisements often highlight just one specific way to play with a toy because that’s the way it’s shown in a TV show or movie. This doesn’t necessarily make the toy bad; it just limits the ways it can be played with. For example, if your child starts imitating or copying scenes from a TV show, their imagination may end up being constrained.